Not Giving Up My Hope of Starting a Family

Becky Dickson

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Becky Dickson

The envelope arrived in the mailbox piled in with all of our other bills—health insurance, water, electric. To anyone else it was just another white rectangular envelope demanding money for a service that we’d used. To me, it was my hope to someday have a family.

I recognized it immediately: “Reprotech” was stamped across the front in big, bold black letters, and I dropped all the other envelopes on the table so that I could spend time with this one.

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About My Memoir: 

Writing has become not only a therapeutic outlet for me, but also a way for me to share my story with a wider audience. I tell my story because I would love for people to understand what it’s like to live with MBC. Fertility, and not being able to build a family, is a huge issue that often doesn’t get talked about. For me, it’s one of the hardest parts of the diagnosis. I hope that this piece captures a slice of that reality.

Advice for Others with Metastatic Breast Cancer: 

First and foremost: feel whatever it is that you need to feel. It’s OK to not to feel positive all the time. If you’re angry, sad, scared - that’s OK. It won’t last forever, but sometimes you have to go through it to come out the other side. And when you do, you might discover that life can still be every bit as beautiful. The most important thing is to try not to isolate yourself because you feel down. One of the most helpful things for me was finding the MBC community online, because I suddenly had this big group of men and women who understood what I was going through and who could support me and offer me advice. I have the best family and friends, but some things you can only understand by going through it. 

Why I’m a Hear My Voice Volunteer: 

Being a LBBC Hear My Voice Volunteer has better focused my advocacy projects. I tend to have a million projects going at once, and being in a program with structured deadlines forced me to better focus, plan, and execute those projects in a more organized manner. 

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