Dealing with negative comments
- Medical Review: Lisa Carey, MD, FASCO
Many people don’t understand triple-negative breast cancer, and having to explain it can feel overwhelming. It’s likely you will spend a lot of time with people diagnosed with other types of breast cancer. Your family and friends may have heard misleading information.
Because triple-negative breast cancer can be aggressive, some people may react to the news in an upsetting way or act like they feel sorry for you.
Hearing negative comments can be distressing. After all, you are focused on staying strong and getting well. Here are some ways to respond:
- Gently explain that there are several very effective treatment options for triple-negative breast cancer. These include chemotherapy, pembrolizumab immunotherapy and PARP inhibitors. For metastatic triple-negative breast cancer, options include chemotherapy, pembrolizumab, PARP inhibitors, and the targeted therapy sacituzumab govitecan (Trodelvy).
- If someone persists, be direct and say, “Thank you for your concern, but you are not helping me right now.”
Give your family and friends concrete ways to support you. They might not know what to do or how to talk with you about your diagnosis. They’ll be glad if you ask them to help out with meals, carpooling or running errands.
Remember, you have control over who you tell and how many details you share. Consider giving more details to those who are supportive. Share less, or nothing, with others. Empower yourself by ignoring myths and focusing instead on your recovery.
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